Bridesmaids - Made To Order?

This is an FAQ - should my bridesmaid wear the same outfit style and colour or one or the other.

It's a personal taste really but I do feel that in order to make your bridal party happy, why not the same colour but with different styling. Let's face it, not everyone is made out of the same mold and most of us ladies are quite particular whether the dress will make them look big, wide or both (heaven forbid)!

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However, it does look nice when everyone is dressed in the same outfit but the main thing is to choose the style wisely. One dress might look good on the tall and statuesque bridesmaid but may look dowdy and frumpy on a shorter person. 

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Here in Malaysia, the bridesmaids job is to carry the trays of gifts during the Solemnization Ceremony. The number of maids could start from 5-9, depending on how many trays of gift you'd be giving to your groom.

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Children at wedding reception

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A lot of my client, at the earlier stage of the planning says to me - Children are not invited to our wedding/event and I would just nod and listen. 10 out of 10, there will be a toddler or two present eventually at the wedding reception. No matter how hard we try, chances are the guests really couldn't get a baby-sitter. If you are okay with children present at your reception, then this shouldn't be an issue. But sometimes, other guests gets put off with screaming babies or kids running around while they're trying to listen to the speeches. So what can you do?

There are two ways of dealing with this issue. 1) You can politely tell your guest that you're not having any children at your reception and that may just cost you a friendship or two with this stance. Or 2) Prepare an area or a playroom for the children. Yes it will add to the cost but the parents will be ever so grateful to you for allowing them to bring their young ones and they can also keep an eye on their children while having a great time at your wedding. Ensure that there is a child-minder or babysitter present at the playroom, filled with finger food and drinks, crafts for them to create, hire a clown even just to keep them entertain. The extra cost will commensurate the outcome - it keeps you sane from screaming children around, get the 'kid-free' reception that you want and friends who will remember your kind gesture. It's a win-win situation!

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How to deal with wedding planning stress

My client (she's the Mother of the Bride) told me this afternoon that she feels that her stress level is slowly rising as the wedding date is approaching rapidly (we have 1 month and 17 days left to go to Event Date). I ask her how come as it is not the first wedding in the family albeit it's her eldest daughter that's getting hitched. She was worried about our meeting with the venue representative as he was taking over the sales executive that we have been dealing with who has resigned from the resort last month, worried about what can go wrong during the wedding and so forth. The meeting today was for us to touch base with this new guy, who Thank God, is the Sr Sales Manager and is very genial and friendly with us, not to mention knowing his stuff. The worry was wiped away instantly from my client and the three of us got on like a house on fire.

Basically, at some point some brides (I find that grooms are more laidback and just want to get married!) gets disheartened about the whole planning the wedding and going through all the minute details as well as absorbing it, trying to remember every single conversation. To handle stress easily, try to:-

1. Allocate certain hours of the day for your planning i.e. from 5-7pm that is when you make calls to vendors, update the details in your log book or answer emails pertaining to the wedding. If you do it during your lunch break, you might just not have enough time to eat. Now that is where it gets serious as your weight will be affected as well as your bridal outfit.
2. Back up all details and have everything in writing from the vendors. Send an email after a meeting with them to recap what has been discussed about to ensure that there are no miscommunication during the discussion. I usually have my jottings in a book (as well as sketches) on the computer.
3. Once you have decided on a theme or the style - stop reading bridal magazines. It will only confuse you about your prior decisions or selection.
4. If it all looks dreary or just too over-whelming, take a break from it. Rest your mind over the weekend and don't discuss the wedding with your fiance or friends. Just tell them that you are having a little break from the planning, not the wedding. Having a break from the planning will eventually remind you why you are getting married to the man you love.
5. If you still feel that you can't handle it anymore, share the task with your fiance or  delegate some duties to your bridesmaids. They are more than willing to help, just set a dateline on the task which at the end of the day can ease your stress and still get results!

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But if you think that it is just too overwhelming for you to handle the planning and work commitment is just unbearable, give us a call and we can take away the stress from you!

Biggest Wedding Worry

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Since I have no clue on what to blog about today, I typed on Google Search and typed biggest wedding worry. The results came out pretty fast which was not what I had expected – Rain. No matter where you are in the world, Mother Nature is in control this part of the wedding. No wedding planners on earth could help you and stopping the rain falling if the weather suddenly turns terrible and it pours… Be it indoors or outdoor, rain can cause some kind of delay or worse, catastrophically upset your wedding day.

If you have planned to have an outdoor wedding ceremony and it happens to be the rainy season, check your local weather forecast daily. Although this will not stop the rain but it should prepare you for the unscheduled rain drops! Have a back-up plan of where to re-route your guests should you need to. Make sure that the path to the back-up location plan is also covered – watch Harry Potter’s The Deathly Hallows Part One – the scene where Fleur Delacour and Bill Weasley reception -from the tent to the Weasley’s house was covered. That way, you and your guests’ dresses are somewhat saved from the rain, not to mention your hair and make-up too. Have those Wellingtons ready just in case you still have to run across the muddy field to get indoors. !

Photo from the The Bridal District

Rain can also affect an indoor event! How you say? Through my experience living in South East Asia and the average rainy days for Malaysia is about 200-230 days out 365 days in a year, rain be it a light drizzle and a torrential one ( Malaysia has Monsoon Season). It creates slow traffic or even massive traffic congestion which will subsequently delay the guests arriving to the event. So when a client ask what is the potential problem that we might face for the event? It’s that four-letter word called rain. But, there is also a solution to this. I would usually wait until 75% of the guests have arrived and the Main Table guests  have all ‘checked-in’, you can already start the event. You don’t have to wait for all the guests to arrive to start the event. Remember, it is your special day. Of course you’d like to share it with your family and friends but it is also unfair to let the other guests waiting.

But some also believe that rain during your wedding means good luck! Not just in the western country, the malays also believe that if it rains during your solemnization or wedding ceremony means the marriage will be blessed with wealth...

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